The XD's have a rather large following in the concealed carry ranks, and I think you'll find this forum is no exception.
There's a lot of folks here with vast amounts of knowledge on concealed carry, holsters, legal questions, and just about anything else you can think of...it's acutally an excellent resource to get answers to your questions.
Something I like, is in general the site is very civil in nature. People are typically polite, and the language used follows the “Ten year old daughter rule�.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t heated discussions, there are, but they generally stay civil in nature. If not, the moderators are pretty quick at shutting things down before they get out of control.
I think you and your wife will like the community, and let me say again welcome aboard