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She can't be depressed, she has the privilege of being married to me.

She's about as anti-psyciatrist and psychologist as Jeffrey Dahmer. She went to a couple of grief counseling sessions right after it happened and decided she didn't need it. Maybe I'll just get more medication for myself.

Sorry, not making light of my own issue. I truly thank you for the advice folks.

Thank you for all of the advice. All great information and helpful. I do my best to be understanding, but at the same time, I fight not having sympathy for his weakness. He was a felon, former meth addict, then addicted to pain killers, while being a VERY successful business man. All seems so contradictory to me. She does blame herself, she was right around the corner when it happened, they had a big fight not too long before. She has let me take him a few times as I mentioned. She's always scared to death and calls 10 times minimum even on day trips to east Texas. She is a wonderful wife and mom. just fearful and somewhat obsessed with "her baby". I've carried many times when she had no clue, I'd be getting undressed and she's amazed I had a pistol, without her knowing. Of course, she nearly always says, "why would you think you might need a gun?". Whole 'nother discussion I know.

I just keep trying, try to reassure her, let her know the surroundings, what exactly we will be doing, with whom, etc. etc. He always has fun and expresses that to mom. She does get better little by little. I tend to feel as if she doesn't trust me, which I do KNOW isn't the case. It can be tough but I'll continue to baby her along to an extent. Again, thank you for the advice.

My wife, both of us married previously, absolutely hates anything and everything gun related. She grew up in a family that hunted but she was never too interested. Her previous husband hunted, owned 30 guns, and committed suicide, with a pistol, 10 years ago. So, I have two questions and I need some sound advice...

(1) What is the best way to nicely explain that my two sons, my daughter, and our grandchildren, should not pay for his mistake? Meaning, each time I take any of them to shoot or hunt, we have a long drawn out "discussion" about what we are doing, where, for me to be careful, etc. etc. I know she has a good reason to be worried due to what happened, but I am 52, grown up shooting, hunting, have my CHL, etc. but these discussions are getting very old.

(2) My step son, who is 11, and who I have raised, loves to shoot, has now hunted pigs with me on numerous occasions, and wants to go deer hunting. Just this year do I feel he is ready and, in fact, I am trying to plan a trip for NEXT year for he and I to go to south Texas. Trip would be 3 or 4 days and she says she just can't let us go, as it's "too long for him to be away from his mama". In my opinion, he shouldn't pay for something someone else did. She says she trusts me, but many of her words and her actions, say otherwise. Help on this one too please?

Thank You!!