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This is turning out to be quite exciting. I lead such a boring life.

I sincerely hope that all the threats are over-dramatization and loud talk, but in the case they are not, don't get too hung up working your way through the force continuum business. It is a nice concept, but there is NO rule that says the badguy has to start at the low end. And neither do you. This is not like a burglary or even a robbery, where you may face someone who really does just want to steal some property and leave, and violence is not the main goal. If either of these guys show up, YOU are the focus. They want to do something to YOU. It may be just psychic punishment, like calling you names, or it may be much worse. You defend yourself as appropriate, you start where you need to on the force continuum, and that may mean your first choice is locking your door, or your first, last, and only choice may be deadly force.

Good luck.

The Annoyed Man wrote: If she had your best interest at heart, she would agree that a report needs to be filed. That she doesn't indicates that, right now, she cares more about his future than yours.

BINGO. Keep your guard up, document and report and reconsider your relationship, given that you may be bringing danger to your own family for a gal who doesn't appear to have really cut all her emotional ties to her last boyfriend...