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pcgizzmo wrote:Have I done something to offend you? If so, let me be the first to apologize. If I haven't then what gives with the tone of your emails?

No you haven't but apparently I have offended you. I sincerely apologize. I don't want this thread to get locked so I will delete my posts.

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pcgizzmo wrote:Thanks everyone for the replies. I am thankful for the obvious good people here on this board. I have a lot of food for thought.

I realize how dangerous it is for my in-laws and possibly my wife and I. I'm going to talk with her and have her lay down the law to her parents. If she's unwilling to do it then I'm going to take matters into my own hands.

One thing. Do you think it would be better to get the DEA involved? I dont know if the local PD could do alot since it's a private state prison.

My thanks again for the thoughtful and honest posts. I will try and update this in case your interested.

PCGIZZMO - You still don't get it.

What do you mean "possibly you and your wife". If don't break loose of this situation, it IS YOU AND YOUR WIFE who are in danger.

Why does your wife have to been convinced to lay down the law. Isn't there a saying in Texas about "Cowboy Up"? This is from the Urban Dictionary:

Quit your complaining and be a man. When it gets tough start playing hard.

Your question about local PD vs DEA shows that you are still not serious. It's just another attempt for you to avoid taking any real action. Are there federal laws being violated? DEA is a federal agency. If you go to your local PD they will know if it is within their jurisdiction. If they require assistance from a state or federal authority, they will get it. At this point I don't thing you have anything concrete to tell them, so they may not be able to do much. If they have first hand knowledge that laws are being violated it is up to your in-laws to report them, not you.

Your in-laws have not asked for your help. It is their problem, but for some reason you keep wanting to make it your own. I don't know about you, but my life already has enough problems and stress without having me to go look for any more. I can't help but think that you have some need or desire to be a hero and solve everybody's problems.

After re-reading this and my previous posts, I just realized that I am trying to save you.

mamabearCali wrote:This is hard advice to give and receive. But what I mostly wanted to say was that just because you can't be with them right now does not mean that it will be forever that you can't be with them.

Thanks for the reminder. This is one thing that I forgot to say in my post.

RPBrown wrote:They are what is known as enablers. If they continue to do so, the results can be even more traumatic.

pcgizzmo wrote:Yes, I agree but I can't even say anything like that to them. There so caught up in the "look at our poor son and what the prison system has done to him"

If you really wanted to you can. You have, also, become an enabler. You are also caught up in the "look at our poor son/brother" mentality.

You want to save them, but nothing you can do will save them or their son. Since they have refused to get law enforcement involved they will continue to be manipulated by their son and nothing will improve. You are letting yourself be manipulated and you will continue to get frustrated and accomplish nothing. You and your wife will be dragged down into a never ending cycle of destruction. Unless the cycle is broken, it will continue to effect many future generations of the family.

My opinion will sound insensitive, callous and even cruel. But since you asked, my honest opinion is to cut them loose have nothing at all to do with them. Nothing! This is a hard decision, but one that you have to make. Accept the fact that you can't save them, but that is the only way that you will save yourself.

Good luck.

I don't really expect that my opinion will affect your actions, but IANAL, LEO, counselor, therapist, clergy etc.

pcgizzmo wrote: ... but I can't tell them that because they would disown me as well.

It doesn't sound like they have disowned him.