Outbreaker wrote:My Wife wonders why I carry. And why I want her to learn to shoot and carry.
The other night we were leaving a movie and she stated that she was scared.
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I am proud and expecting her to feel better but her response is........wait for it........"That does not make me feel any better"
There are several ways (I think) one could approach this, but either way you both need to be on the same page. If you are Christian, there are many Scriptures to demonstrate your duty to both arm and protect your wife. Barring that, gather information on incidents in your area and haunts. The next time she wants to go out, lay those down and your concerns both for her safety and her apprehension. Calmly and lovingly refuse going out saying something to the effect that you can't stand to see her afraid, you can't stand to see her unprotected and since she does not like you being enabled to protect her, you need to stay home.
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Early on in our marriage we would go to Turner Falls fairly regularly. Her dad had always carried a handgun camping and I had grown up the same way. She wasn't anti-gun but I guess she didn't see the need to carry. As I was packing she saw that I had my Colt Commando laid out. She said, "You aren't planning on taking that are you?" I said, "I always have one camping, you never know what can happen." She was getting kind of upset so I took it out of the stuff I was packing, but did not say I
wouldn't take it.
When she went about getting other stuff ready, I packed it in my med kit. The second night (Saturday) a group of bikers and company moved and set up on the other side of the water from us. During the night the revelers were getting pretty rowdy and a woman screamed (couldn't tell why) and my wife said, "Did you hear that?!?"
"Yes."
"What are we going to do?"
"Sleep I hope."
I guess I was overly calm for her because she said, "Did you...?"
"Yes and I have it with me."
"Oh good."
Later as she was relating how scared she had gotten I said, "So we're not going to have any more discussions about when and where to carry?" The typically self-reliant and self assured wife became contrite and said, "I was glad you had it."
She has carried and has had a CHL for a long time.
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I guess my point is a choice circumstance can completely change an attitude, especially when faced with a dangerous reality. Be ready to protect, you don't have to tell her you're ready and when she is truly frightened she might understand.
If you haven't already, buy her a pistol and encourage, teach her. Use it as a date...I have and it got her excited about a gun.
