For a long time, women especially, have thought that if you meet in a public place that it would be safe if the estranged partner got mad & wanted to get violent. (they wont do anything in public) This cannot be farther from the truth in this day. The last thing that happened in one of those places that I go when I would be there was a shooting just about like this. It started when the mad boyfriend caused a disturbance at the hospital where she worked. I had been making hospital visits there & been gone about 30 minutes. Security had told him to leave the property & if he returned he would be arrested for trespass. He went home, called her, set a meeting at the storage building parking lot about four city blocks from our church, he shot & killed her and her son. No doubt in my mind he was armed at the hospital. (Yes Mrs Brady criminals take guns to hospitals & break that law too.)
Could have just as easily started shooting at the hospital or been the church lot He picked to meet at. Broad daylight & mid afternoon when it started. Later I spent time w/ the security guard over the usual self blame issues.
"Why didn't I have him arrested then?"
I should have done something.
Why didn't I see it coming?
There is no good side of town anymore. There is danger everywhere. Awareness is #1 training is #2.
LT