Congrats. I agree that you can tend to "forget" that it's even there. It sure is comforting to "remember" that it is there.
BTW, I just found out a few days ago that my wife is an anti-gun person. And to think I was trying to get her to take a CHL class.. ah, I was so wrong (and we've been together for over 15 years and known each other to almost 20 years).
Keep working on her. Don't push, but don't give up. My wife is/was the same way. Over time and her seeing that guns and people that own guns are not evil she is beginning to come around. Whether we will eventually enjoy shooting as a couple that way many of the forum members are fortunate remains to be seen.
Have you had guns the whole time you've been married?
Contact Charles or TraCoun concerning one of the ladies classes that they put on. Hopefully my wife will attend after the baby is born.