I agree with you folks. I was being sarcastic. Sorry if it seemed as if I really believed she liked being beat on. I know many women feel trapped in these situations. There has also been associations between child abuse, sexual or physical and women who allow themselves to be abused. It is actually very sad. We do free HVAC for an abused women's shelter in our area. The location and name is so protected, we are not to put anything on the invoice that might make finding them easy. These woman and children have been terrorized by their husbands/fathers. It is a hiding place for them to build the strength to fight back.Keith B wrote:jbarn wrote:She doesn't. There is a psychosis with battered women. It is a very, very sad situation.03Lightningrocks wrote: She apparently liked getting pummeled.There are those who take the beatings because they have been beat into submission to believing they either deserved it, or they have an inferiority complex and they think they are totally dependent on the man and can't afford to leave him, etc. There are also those who are so afraid to leave because of retaliation, up to and including the 'if you leave me I will kill you' part.
On the other side of the coin, I have been on domestic abuse calls where the woman calls in to have police arrive, they go to arrest the husband and the wife starts yelling 'don't take him to jail. He didn't mean it. I won't press cahrges.... I was even attacked by a wife when I went to put cuffs on the husband after she had been beat black and blue by him 10 minutes earlier. Both of them ended up going to jail.
A domestic dispute is probably one of the worst things you can get in the middle of period. Unless he is literally killing her or she is at risk of death or serious bodily injury at the time, it's best to just call the police, be a good witness and let them handle the situation.
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- Thu Feb 20, 2014 5:44 pm
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- Thu Feb 20, 2014 3:04 pm
- Forum: General Texas CHL Discussion
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Someone mentioned her lack of gratitude. Unfortunately, many domestic disputes end this way. I posted a long drawn out story about hopping on a guy who was beating his gal. After cops got there, she turned on me like I did something wrong. He would have knocked her silly had I not done something. She even lied to the cops trying to get me in trouble. A half dozen witnesses back me up. The cops diffused the situation and that dumb woman went home with that brute. The cops told me not to worry because they see this all the time. They even had other incidents with this couple on their system. All were domestic issues. She apparently liked getting pummeled.
- Thu Feb 20, 2014 12:37 am
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Beiruty wrote:You said it best, when there is no life to protect (justifying the use of deadly force) and worse it is family feud or family violence between two parties, one has just to observe, report (911) and be on the defense. We are not superman nor batman. This is why LEOs are paid a salary.
Just a reminder, simple assault or assault is almost always not justification for the use of deadly force.
... He stayed on his own side of the street and did not get confrontational with that fool. Running over and playing batman to stop the situation would be questionable if she were in no real danger.Paint it with different colors now. He is walloping the tar out of her as she begs for her life. Do we become batman at that point or stand by while a human is beat to death? I know what I would do. Probably get killed doing it, but I would not be able to stop myself.
- Thu Feb 20, 2014 12:32 am
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Your life did change. You may not have shot the guy but there is no way you will ever forget the feeling you had standing there that night. It will affect you the next time you find yourself trying to determine if deadly force is required.
I would like to think I would have handled it as well as you did. Like you, there would be no way in hades I could have walked back in my house knowing a woman was taking a beating across the street from me.
I would like to think I would have handled it as well as you did. Like you, there would be no way in hades I could have walked back in my house knowing a woman was taking a beating across the street from me.