Chiming in late and haven't read all the replies but here's mine based on the original post. I recognize I'm on the outside looking in at your situation but there's a cold part of me that says dump them both. No girlfriend, IMHO, of only a couple months is worth the aggravation. I suppose if I'd had a similar attitude about my wife, whom I love dearly, in the same situation that I wouldn't be married today. Still, some how I'm willing to bet I'd have gotten over it.Fangs wrote:It seems that I have unwittingly gotten myself into a bit of a situation, and I can't think of any group of people better suited to give me advice on how to handle it than yall...
I've been in there with a previous girlfriend. Thought she was the best thing since sliced bread. My family dogged her but, I was "in love"....Horse HOCKEY!!!! To day I realize my brain was not engaged in the process at all. Anyway, come to find out this girl's "ex" was a thug of the highest order. Gold teeth, pants around his butt, and multiple arrests for drugs, public intoxication and felony assault. This was before facebook and all this new fangled Internet junk but, this turkey knew who I was and threatened to kill me. There was no commanding officer and I didn't have the luxury of knowing he was overseas.
My answer when this guy called was to tell him he could have the chick and that I never knew he'd existed until he called...All true and those were the first and last words I ever spoke to that guy. I wasn't going to threaten him because I didn't know what kind of game he'd bring to the table. There is ALWAYS somebody bigger, meaner and stronger than you!
As for the girl, I told her, we were done and that she needed to go back to her ex. I also told her that if anything happened to my family, I'd hold her, personally responsible and do my level best to bury her, the ex and both their families under the nearest jail. To her, because me dad was a cop and she was no angel, this was a credible threat. She cried, said I was a (I'll leave that part out) and told me she didn't understand why I would do that to someone who loved me. I told her if she loved me, she'd have told me about her psychotic felon of an ex as soon as we got serious and walked away. Haven't' seen either since and I'm glad for it.
The point lurking here is it sounds like you are young enough to move on. More than a decade has gone by and I've had some darn good times since then. I don't miss her, and could care less if she, her family or the felon boyfriend are still sucking air today. You've got too much to do and too much fun to have to be worried about some moron in the sand. Move on with your life. I'm sure there are better women with less baggage available.
That's my $0.02