Does she somehow still believe that the suicide was an "accident?" It seems to me she still sees it as accidental and therefore you or your son could have a similar "accident." Perhaps she need to get some help to decouple the deliberate act of suicide from the very unlikely possibility of an accident that you take every precaution to prevent.TrueBlu wrote:Thank you for all of the advice. All great information and helpful. I do my best to be understanding, but at the same time, I fight not having sympathy for his weakness. He was a felon, former meth addict, then addicted to pain killers, while being a VERY successful business man. All seems so contradictory to me. She does blame herself, she was right around the corner when it happened, they had a big fight not too long before. She has let me take him a few times as I mentioned. She's always scared to death and calls 10 times minimum even on day trips to east Texas. She is a wonderful wife and mom. just fearful and somewhat obsessed with "her baby". I've carried many times when she had no clue, I'd be getting undressed and she's amazed I had a pistol, without her knowing. Of course, she nearly always says, "why would you think you might need a gun?". Whole 'nother discussion I know.
I just keep trying, try to reassure her, let her know the surroundings, what exactly we will be doing, with whom, etc. etc. He always has fun and expresses that to mom. She does get better little by little. I tend to feel as if she doesn't trust me, which I do KNOW isn't the case. It can be tough but I'll continue to baby her along to an extent. Again, thank you for the advice.
Just a thought... I'm not a mental health professional or anything.