I am going to ramble a bit uncharacteristically here, because some of my ideas in this vein are not fully formed.
As others have said, you cannot talk someone out of deeply held beliefs or fears. The motivation for change has to come from within, or from some experience that the person cannot ignore or rationalize. As the saying goes, a neo-conservative is a mugged liberal.
Two aspects of this issue have to be separated:
- the need to provide for your own defense
- fear of firearms
The need to provide for your own defense is blindingly obvious to anyone who take his or her head out of the proverbial sand. Every week we can read in the newspapers about home invasion robberies, rapes, abductions, and other violent crimes that are launched with no advance notice.
People who deny this issue are fooling themselves, and pretty much have to become a victim before they realize the truth.
Fear of firearms is a different issue. It is caused by ignorance, such as thinking that "guns go off by themselves."
You can tackle this problem. You can invite such a person to a range to learn safe firearms handling and shooting. You can sell this idea by saying that even if the person does not intend to acquire a firearm or shoot, it's better to know how to handle one safely -- just as we pay attention to the emergency instructions on airplanes without every expecting to need to follow them.
A person who goes shooting, however timidly at first, usually comes to enjoy it.
If going to the range is too big a first step, you can try starting with AirSoft or BB guns, which many people (erroneously) regard as toys.
- Jim