Thanks,
I read the consensus as my plan of selecting and buying the gun as the most important thing. Believe me, I know you have to choose your own gun. When people are getting a new shotgun it is no different, you have to get the one that feels best to you not the one your buddy shoots.
I am just trying to lay out what I *think* I want at this time which is a concealed weapon and being my first I am confident I will be more comfortable with a smaller weapon, hence the subcompact. I also know from a psychological (rational or not) standpoint having the manual safety and exposed hammer will make me more comfortable with a loaded weapon.
I duck hunt with friends a lot and I have a very select few friends that I know are as conscientious as me and when ducks fly between us we wait it out until it is clear to shoot. I also have friends I don't hunt with unless we are right next to each other if you know what I mean.

Checking things like the safety or emptying the chamber is second nature to me and I think transition to a handgun will be easier with those features, at least on the first one.
Austinrealator I'll send you a PM, my neighbor with the PX-4 is in Vancouver at the Olympics and we'll go to the range when he gets back. I want to shoot a few before I spend the money I have set aside on the wrong one.