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Thanks for all the encouragement. I never expected this thread to hit 3 pages. As I posted a while back, she came to me not long ago and said that she decided it's a good idea to get one, but made a point to tell me that she would only carry when I wasn't around. I know thats not ideal but I can live with that for now.

I never thought if that. You're right. I need to choose an instructor carefully

Since I originally started this thread I have taken into consideration all the previous advice. The wife and I have had a few conversations and she seemed to be coming around so I figured I wouldn't push it. Then one day last week she says " I want to talk to you and I want you to listen to what I have to say." So I'm thinking "What did I do now?"

She goes on to tell me that she has been thinking and decided that she should get a CHL. She made sure to tell me that it doesn't mean she wants her own gun and to not expect her to want to carry 24/7 like I do. Rather that she thinks that she should get it because (like Mr. Cotton said) with it she has the choice but w/o it she has no choice. To use her words "I would only carry when I'm not with you and out by myself and I would just take your small shiny gun because I'm OK with that one" She was refering to my S&W J frame.

I told her that I was thrilled w her decision and thought it was very adult of her to realize that, despite how careful she always is, bad things can happen to good people

In total I would call it a major victory. Thanks for all the advice. Now I know one thing I can get her for Xmas

wow, I just looked up that "Refuse to be a Victim" seminar by the NRA and there's only one in the next 2 months and it's 6 hours away. Anyone know of an alternative?

Thanks for all the great advise. I think for now I will continue to take her to the range with me on occasion. She seems to enjoy that much. I will then bring up the idea of one of those defense seminars. That seems to be the best place to start.

Baby steps I guess. I thin even getting her to keep one in her car at all times would be a HUGE step up. I think that will be the first major hurdle. Oh well, I'll keep trying.

all great ideas. I especially like the idea of taking a defense class together. Where would I find info on that, NRA cite? I'll look at those books too. Thanks!

Hi,
Let me preface that with a little background info. We have lived in Texas for 3 years. Before that we were both born and raised Californians (I know, I know). We're in our late 20's. I have always been exposed to guns, not overexposed. My Gradfather was an LAPD officer for 32 years and my father always had the old 12 gauge in the house for protection. I would skeet shoot occasionally as a youth but nothing extensive.

My wife was raised with almost no exposure to guns except for what we see on TV. Her father served in the Army for a few years in his youth so he knows his way around a rifle but doesn't own one. They are not anti-gun people but I get the vibe that they don't see a need to own them. They have always been respectful of me however.

I have had my CHL for a year now and own a few pistols. My wife has warmed up to the idea slowly and is now comfortable with me carrying anywhere I deem necessary (which is almost everywhere I go) but she's reluctant to embark on the CHL journey. She is proficient with the guns and we go to the range when we can. She seems to enjoy occassional shooting.

She asks me why she should get one when and I tell her because I can't be with her every second of everyday or I would and there would be no issue. Have any of you faced this situation? She cites the cost and the fact that she couldn't carry it most of the time she's out of the house (she's a public school teacher so thats out) as primary reasons not to do it.

I can't understand why someone wouldn't want to play an active role in their own well being and protection. I know if I work on her for another few years she'll probably crack but I worry about the interim, any suggestions?