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this is also the same site that says get the heavyist bullet wight you can in any given caliber.
Im not a buyer in to using 200gr. .357 mag rounds. were the 125 gr. has been proven more then any round except maybe 230gr 45.
the 135gr. 1300+fps .40 is one of the better street proven rounds out there
200gr.+p .45 works well too.

as far as the Op being a small guy. I stand 5'6" and about 140 lbs with work boots. I carry iwb anything from glock to a full size 5" 1911. So far a carring a .380 goes its better then a stick and a rock. The biggist issue I had when I had mine was getting it to feed and not jam. The issue was all mine, not the gun noone else that ever used it had the concern. I gave it up and went much bigger.
I still have a .32 that Ill take with me in the sunner when walking the dogs threw the area. The only reason I do that is the number of people that dont belive they shoudl have there dog on a leash.

my .02 anyway