If you would drag her around by her hair like a caveman, you wouldn't have to ever whistle for her.dihappy wrote:This is a sore spot between my girlfriend and i. The first time i caught her giving out too much personal info to some tech support person on the phone. Where she worked and what she did, etc. I got snappy with her and she got upset and couldnt understand why i would get upset.
Tonight she took the dog out for potty and was out longer than usual. I got worried and walked outside to find her talking to the new neighbors. I whistled and she came back a few seconds later. I told her that id prefer her not speaking to the neighbors and telling them anything about us. She said she didnt say anything except her name and the name of our dog.
I told her that id seen a bunch of what i thought were illegal aliens over there and i dont want them knowing anything about us.
She got upset, but i told her she'd done it before.
Anyone elses spouse/GF/BF/SO give out too much info?
Anyhow, sounds like you have been sufficiently made fun of for whistling at/for/towards your significant other. My girlfriend, who lives with me have a loose set of ground rules that we talked about when she moved in. Not to go all Dr. Phil on you, but it is much easier to discuss these things and come to an agreement in advance before problems occur.
Our basics:
Although we live in a great established neighborhood, we don't open the door for anyone that we don't know. We do let me know we are home by saying "not interested" or " I can't open the door, my dog is very aggressive towards strangers."
We want to know all our neighbors well enough to waive hi, say Merry Christmas, etc. but not so well that they are in our business. We are polite, always exchange hellos, but never do the "meet at the fence and have a long conversation" thing. We both agree that this can help avoid future problems.
We don't have a home phone (we are of the age group that doesn't these days) and we don't answer our mobile phones unless the number has been stored in it. If we have to call in for service for Direct TV, Internet, etc. we are friendly, but not give any more information than is required to complete the transaction.
And finally.....this...
kjolly wrote:Rather than living your life in parnoid fear, maintain a strong defense and enjoy your life.