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Allaying the fear and mis-trust your wife has will not be a simple thing. Indeed, your continued discussions with her are proof of this point. She alone will be able to ultimately draw the distinctions between your behaviors and mental status and those of her previous husband, between her perception of guns as a facilitator of bad events and the reality that they can equally facilitate good events (or mitigate against bad ones). Counseling may help her come to these realizations, as may your own continued efforts.

Some suggestions, if I may, of things you might do (if you haven't already) are: 1) invite/include her, and even encourage her to participate when the time is right, in your shooting endeavors so that she can see that they are always conducted safely, 2) float the idea with her about whether additional, industry standard, safety training, say becoming an NRA RSO, would help, and 3) immediately prior to every live-fire or hunting exercise, perform a safety briefing -- including the rules of gun safety, considerations regarding the range or environment, and procedures to follow in the event of any injury -- with all participants and by-standers. If your ingrained firearms safety knowledge and experience are coupled with demonstrated, consistent actions and habits over time, I'm not sure what else you can personally do.