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Divided Attention wrote:I have been married to the same amazing guy for over 25 years. He still has not "proposed" We had a talk about getting married someday after dating for over 4 years, looked at rings - he too insisted I had to have a "real" diamond. He carried the ring for a while until we got to his house one day and he said something to the effect of "Aw - go ahead an put it on"

He did ask my dad permission, but as far as an "Official Proposal" there has been none. I pick on him from time to time, but why knock what is working - I mean he reloads my ammo and buys me rose gripped Colt snubbies for Valentines day!

that's the way I figure it, if it works why knock it....
and by asked, I mean, mine sent a card by way of the best man, who waited for an answer and said "you'd better say yes, I am dressed in a tux", I said "well, I am dressed up, I guess we'd better do this"

Mine didn't "propose" either....
we were at a mall, picking out some things for him to wear to start his new job....walked past the jewelry store, he walked in, we walked out with a ring...."oh, I guess we're getting married" he says...."are we?" says I...."aren't we?" he says...."I don't know, I haven't been asked"...."no, you haven't"he says with a wink....we got married in July, he asked 15 mins before I walked down the aisle

my engagement ring is a simple single diamond ring on a band, our rings are James Avery crosses, fairly simple, not terribly expensive by current standards, but 25 years ago two college grads...wow...they seemed outrageous....for our 25th he bought me a James Avery band with 5 diamonds that I wear with them, it's a lovely set and very meaningful.
Something you may want to think of is will she wear the ring at work? I know she can't wear it during surgery, but will she wear it in the office? If not, maybe simple is more reasonable? You should know her style by now, and if you're not sure, then propose without the ring and ask her to go with you to pick out a ring, absolutely nothing wrong with that.