From a Rapist's perspective

[bps3040]

Found this on another site and thought it was worth sharing

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=355650


Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

This is important information for females of ALL ages.

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone.

Please pass it along.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: Are office parking lots/garages. Number three: Are public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.


11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back.
Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A ..) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded! ! and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.


Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A ! ! candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

[02transam]

i like this tips they are good info. ive known about the pinch for a while and its good stuff i do it to my buddies just to mess with them. as for kicking out the tail lights ive never heard of that but its good info i never thought of. as for the being held at gunpoint who ever wrote this definitely knew what they are talking about. i dont know the exact statistic but once you leave the area your chances for survival are almost nil.

[Footpounds]

Thanks for posting this. I forwarded it to my daughter in college. You never know.

[Paladin]

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

I'd recommend carrying defensive spray, and I'm sure this approach can work... however using pepper spray works best when your opponent isn't expecting it. Also the criminal may try to stop you from pulling out the pepper spray if you announce you have it, but haven't got the spray in your hand yet. If you have the spray in your hand, holding it too far "out" makes it vulnerable to the criminal grabbing the spray.

Pepper spray can be carried covertly in your hand. When I percieve potential trouble, I reach for my pepper spray. Having pepper spray in hand means you can react more quickly if you have to use it.

[Paladin]

The following is a detailed method for "reading" a criminal encounter and how to handle the situation. I believe it to be an excellent guide to handling criminal encounters.

http://www.teddytactical.com/archive/Mo ... unters.pdf

Typically encounters begin with the criminal approaching in a "Rude" direct and confrontational way or with a "Ruse"/polite plea for some kind of assistance.

The criminal will try to control their target's movement by stopping them and staking them in place.

There are several potential attack indicators. 1. Grooming, 2. Assessment glances (look around to check that conditions are right before they make their attack), 3. Body Load (squaring to the target and assuming a fighting stance), 4. False Starts (hand movement towards weapon before the weapon is actually deployed)

More detail is available in the article.

[GKings1]

Seen this before and there are some good tips in that article. However, according to Snopes, some of the facts are not up to muster.
http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/rape.asp

[CHL/LEO]

however using pepper spray works best when your opponent isn't expecting it.

There have been plenty of times that we have taken our OC spray out and and just started shaking it prior to attempting to arrest a resisting suspect. If they've ever been sprayed before they know what's about to happen next and in most cases that's enough to get them to comply. The same thing goes when you unholster a Taser and put the red dot right on their chest. Sometimes that's enough to get their attention and compliance.

Even though the scenario being discussed here concerns potential victims that are not in uniform, the situations are similar regarding how a suspect decides whether or not to fight an officer. Now if they are drunk or drugged up - that's an entirely different story.

[stevie_d_64]

This is pretty good stuff!!!

Thanks for posting this...

[Skiprr]

Seen this before and there are some good tips in that article. However, according to Snopes, some of the facts are not up to muster.
http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/rape.asp

Thank you.

[Paladin]

however using pepper spray works best when your opponent isn't expecting it.

There have been plenty of times that we have taken our OC spray out and and just started shaking it prior to attempting to arrest a resisting suspect. If they've ever been sprayed before they know what's about to happen next and in most cases that's enough to get them to comply. The same thing goes when you unholster a Taser and put the red dot right on their chest. Sometimes that's enough to get their attention and compliance.

Even though the scenario being discussed here concerns potential victims that are not in uniform, the situations are similar regarding how a suspect decides whether or not to fight an officer. Now if they are drunk or drugged up - that's an entirely different story.

I have no doubt that it works for uniformed officers... the bad guys generally know you're serious.

As a citizen, without the aura of authority and competence, I like to use surprise. A lot of bad guys don't take threats from their victims all that seriously. Particularly if the victim shows very natural signs of fear.

[g31357]

good stuff, i'm forwarding this to my gf

[Jumping Frog]

It irritates me to no end that so many of the authorities dispensing safety tips go to such elaborate lengths to discuss all kinds of obscurities (use your car keys -- don't use your car keys . . . ), yet always ignore the most obvious recommendation of all:

"Draw your everyday carry gun and shoot that son-of-a-gun full of holes!"

[Heartland Patriot]

It irritates me to no end that so many of the authorities dispensing safety tips go to such elaborate lengths to discuss all kinds of obscurities (use your car keys -- don't use your car keys . . . ), yet always ignore the most obvious recommendation of all:

"Draw your everyday carry gun and shoot that son-of-a-gun full of holes!"

Now, now...you don't know...maybe the person that wrote the original article got paid by the word!

[Jumping Frog]

It irritates me to no end that so many of the authorities dispensing safety tips go to such elaborate lengths to discuss all kinds of obscurities (use your car keys -- don't use your car keys . . . ), yet always ignore the most obvious recommendation of all:

"Draw your everyday carry gun and shoot that son-of-a-gun full of holes!"

Now, now...you don't know...maybe the person that wrote the original article got paid by the word!

Then they should have been paid more by adding the part about carrying everyday and perforating rapists!

[Heartland Patriot]

It irritates me to no end that so many of the authorities dispensing safety tips go to such elaborate lengths to discuss all kinds of obscurities (use your car keys -- don't use your car keys . . . ), yet always ignore the most obvious recommendation of all:

"Draw your everyday carry gun and shoot that son-of-a-gun full of holes!"

Now, now...you don't know...maybe the person that wrote the original article got paid by the word!

Then they should have been paid more by adding the part about carrying everyday and perforating rapists!

Okay, you got me there...

(Not that I'm disagreeing with you, just for the record.)