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Congratulations. Sons are great but daughters are special. Having two of each, and I really enjoy each one, but, I especially like it when my daughters call me "Daddy" even though they are all adults now. Just remember the old saying, "Most men can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy". Oh, and start saving for college and the wedding now.

On the "Boyfriend Talk" issue, I recall one Saturday afternoon several years ago when I answered the door to a mid-teens aged young fellow bent over picking up his skateboard wearing a ball cap on sideways, bling around his neck, an open shirt exposing his wife beater and his pants hanging down exposing his shorts. He said "Yo, is Victoria here?"

To which I replied, "She may be, but I have a question for you. Are you aware of the fact that I can see your underwear?"

He said, "So."

I said, "Sooooo, did it ever occur to you that I might not want my daughter to have to look at your underwear? Son, I have some options for you, would you like to borrow a belt? Or, would you like to join me in the garage where I could use my nail gun to nail those pants to your backside to make sure they don't fall down in my house? Or would you like to run along on home and put on some clothes that fit before trying to see my daughter again?"

He just stood there blinking for a few moments while trying to process the options I had presented him, then said "No", pickup up his skateboard and left.

My daughter was mortified at first, but her Mom and older sister calmed her down with things like Daddy is looking out for you and that guys a jerk if he shows up here dressed like that and perhaps this will help him learn how to act in the presence of a lady. After coming home from school the following Monday, apparently the young man's version of the encounter was all over the school but many of the other girls apparently sided with my position and supported my daughter.

There have been several other boys around here since, but a noticeable lack of exposed underwear from just about any of them. And, each daughter having a brother two years older who, I have just recently learned, apparently screened potential suitors much more aggressively than I would have ever been allowed, seemed to help keep things between the guardrails through the years.