Has this person given any rational reason for not wanting you to carry a gun, or has it been a feelings-based argument?Kythas wrote:So I got in a fight with my girlfriend this weekend about carrying. She can't believe that, when I told her I was getting my CHL and told her I'd be carrying a gun, I meant that I'd really be carrying a gun.
She even went so far as to say she'd rather a BG kill her or me than have me kill someone in defense of her or my life. I brought up the shootings at VA Tech and the church in Colorado and mentioned that someone with a CHL at VA Tech (if it were legal to carry on campus) could have stopped the killer and saved many lives, much as the woman in Colorado did. She actually responded with "How do you know it wasn't their time to go and that's what was meant to happen?"
Arguments of mine that "How do you know if we're ever in that situation and I'm armed, it's not HIS time to go and I was meant to stop him?" fell on deaf ears.
Has anyone else ever had this "discussion" with your significant other?
As to her question regarding ones time to go, I suppose one could argue that this would require knowing the mind of God. Barring that knowledge, God has seen fit to gift humans with the same willingness to fight for their own survival that has been granted to all life that we know of. Since I do not (and arguably cannot) know the mind of God, I will fight for the survival of myself and my loved ones to the best of my ability. To do anything less seems to me to be a slap in the face of the Almighty, and that I will NOT do.
Her argument is a pacifists argument, and if she is truly unwilling to fight for her own life (and genuine pacifists are rare), your best choice is likely to find someone who has more respect for themselves and for their own offspring and loved ones.