seamusTX wrote:ELB wrote:I have never been impressed with the "de-escalation" portion either.
I'm inclined to think if a person hasn't learned to talk his way out of a situation by age 21, he's going to get a much different lesson in the near future.
But related to that area, it should be crystal clear that deadly force is not justified in response to verbal provocation or a conflict that the actor escalated. That includes giving "driving lessons" or etiquette advice.
- Jim
I agree with 99% of your posts but am not sure about this one. I suspect that I'm not alone in being somewhat more calm and less confrontational since I got my CHL. Trust me, I'm way past 21.
To me, de-escalation is, in large part, a mind set. The flip side is that if I'm looking for a fight, I'm likely to find one. In the RV lingo, there is FIDO (forget it, drive on) for those situations where some idiot puts you in peril because of a total lack of consideration for the fact that something at weighs 11 tons is not going to stop as fast as something that weighs less than two tons. For road rage, people doing stupid things with a cell phone and a variety of other circumstances, I find myself to be less likely to say or do something that is going to increase the tension in a situation. Ergo, the absence of escalation is deescalation.
I've always considered myself to be pretty good in situational awareness. I see a number of correlations between being aware of potential problems and doing things to steer clear of them. Perhaps I stretching the boundaries of the term deescalation beyond where others might set them but I do believe that it is much more to deescalation than just calming responding to someone who is hot under the collar and bordering on verbal abuse. And no, I didn't pick up any of this from the CHL module though I did believe that our instructor handled it very well. Out of that session, I didn't fully grasp that if I was involved in making a situation more volatile and it ended up going South, I was going to share in the blame. I have a much better appreciation for that now.